The word “caregiver” doesn’t explain how incredibly important, invaluable, and essential you are to the life of someone you love. Whether it is a friend, a spouse, a sibling, a child, or any family member, your experience may seem to be only deep pain. It may seem like your only option is to just exist. Caregivers forget their own lives, and become so involved in treatment and emotional support for their significant other that loss of oneself is likely and truly feels loving and correct. Any self-care pales in comparison to the need of your loved one, and can feel incredibly selfish. Obviously, the person you adore becomes the center of your heart and world. Problems can arise when this person is no longer one that you can turn to to share your life decisions, laughter, deepest feelings or problems. When your feelings of helplessness are so engulfing, it is hard to breathe and no one understands the depth, not even yourself at times.
To those of you who can relate to these traumatic life changes, let me help you understand what your new personal norm feels and looks like, let me help you navigate through your own nervous system so that you don’t become so out of balance that you forget to breathe for yourself.