Welcome to my website.

I have been a psychotherapist, LMFT, International Life Coach, and trauma and grief specialist for the past 30 years. My expertise includes grief and loss, trauma, PTSD, addictive disorders, mood disorders, and couples therapy. I believe that wellness is a state of being that can always be achieved. With me, you can create the life you have envisioned for yourself. Phone sessions are available. To make an appointment call (805) 768-5026 or email jean.wlf@gmail.com.

As I was watching a movie on Father’s Day by myself at night, missing everyone I love — my children and grandchildren who live far away, my partner and love of my life who died five years ago, family and friends that are not in reach — I am profoundly steeped in a myriad of […]

When the person who shares your life dies, and your soul is screaming for comfort, no one can anticipate how intense that feeling will be. There is no way to fully prepare emotionally for this kind of loss. It doesn’t matter how much time you have in advance to “prepare;” nothing informs or readies your […]

When you get those feelings of there is no reason to… or I am too tired to… or How many times am I going to sell myself out and do… Try to remember that the process of re-visioning after loss or trauma is not walking around the mountain once and then feeling better. People who […]

When you are searching for a feeling that resembles success… When your nervous system is on a high alert 99% of every waking moment… You will do just about anything to self soothe — including over or under eating.  Eating disorders come in all shapes and forms. They exist for as many reasons as there […]

  Imagine your sorrow as a scar. When the shock subsides from the death of a loved one, and you begin to feel like you are somewhat back in your skin;  how do you make sense of your life again?  How do you live a life that is not only tolerable, but whole? Here is […]

If you are one of the lucky ones, and  have truly been blessed by a love worth grieving– as hard as it may be– as counter intuitive as it may feel, celebrate your own life. Do this in remembrance. Do this in honor. Do this in appreciation. Do this because you truly know that each […]

The word “caregiver” doesn’t explain how incredibly important, invaluable, and essential you are to the life of someone you love. Whether it is a friend, a spouse, a sibling, a child, or any family member, your experience may seem to be only deep pain. It may seem like your only option is to just exist. Caregivers […]